How to find and stimulate the clit

Find the clit

The clitoris is the only organ in the human body whose sole purpose is to provide sexual pleasure. Sadly, most sexual education programs fail to teach people how to locate the clitoris, even on their own bodies. There are misconceptions and misunderstandings about where and how to find it, even among people who know about it.

This guide will walk you through everything you need to know about the many parts of the vulva, including the clitoris. Then you’ll learn about the complex internal and external structures of the clitoris, how to locate them, and how to stimulate them for sexual pleasure in yourself or your partners.

So, where is the clit? Let’s get started.

The Anatomy of the Vulva

Let’s get a little warmed up before diving into the clit (as is usually best). Sexual pleasure is about more than just clitoral stimulation. The clit is just one part of a complex network of erogenous parts. Understanding how it all comes together makes it easier for you to pleasure yourself (and others). 

The external genitalia of people with clitorises has a collective name called the vulva. The vulva comprises multiple structures, each with various biological functions. However, they’re not strictly biological, and you can stimulate all of them for sexual pleasure (with consent). 

If you were to lay on your back with a mirror between your legs, here’s what you would see from top to bottom:

Mons Pubis

The mons pubis (or pubic mound) is not technically part of the vulva, but knowing what and where it is makes it easier to identify the other parts of the vulva. The pubic mound is the mound of tissue covering the pubic bone, which has a natural covering of pubic hair in sexually mature humans. It may be fatty or just a thin layer of tissue over bone and anything in between.

Massaging the mons, such as with the palm of the hand, produces sexual pleasure in some people. The mons pubis is intricately connected with the rest of the vulva, including the clitoris. Stimulating the mons often stimulates other parts of the vulva as well.  

Outer Labia (Labia Majora)

As you move downward, the tissue of the mons pubis separates into two fleshy “lips,” called the labia majora or outer labia. These are also naturally covered in pubic hair in adult women. Some people’s outer labia are naturally closed when unaroused, while others are naturally open. 

The outer labia are often pleasure-sensitive to gentle touching and oral stimulation. You can also stimulate them with deeper pressure, which engages the structures inside the vulva. 

Inner Labia (Labia Minora)

Parting the outer labia reveals the inner labia, also called the labia majora. These are like the miniature version of the outer labia. They are thinner and stretchier than the outer labia and much more sensitive. They come in various shapes, sizes, and colors on people of all ages and ethnicities. 

Because of their delicate skin and increased sensitivity, pleasuring the inner labia usually requires a gentler approach. Oral stimulation is particularly pleasurable on the inner labia. You can use firmer pressure to stimulate structures inside the vulva, but be sure to use lots of lube. Too much pulling and pushing of this delicate skin can cause tearing.

Clitoral Hood

You’ll find the clitoral hood if you follow the inner labia upward to where they meet near the mons. This layer of thin, stretchy skin protects the sensitive clitoris from unwanted friction and pressure on a day-to-day basis. It also contributes to sexual arousal and pleasure. 

Stimulating the clitoral hood also stimulates the extra-sensitive clitoris underneath. You can stroke it up and down or side to side to stimulate the shaft - but we’ll get into that in a moment.

Clitoral Glans

The clitoral glans is the only part of the clitoris that is visible externally. It’s rounded in shape, roughly like a bean, and loaded with over 8,000 ultra-sensitive nerve endings. Gently sliding the clitoral hood upward toward the mons reveals the glans.

The glans is extremely sensitive, and for some people, too sensitive for direct stimulation. If you touch the glans directly, make sure to use lots of lubrication. The glans should never be touched dry. Many people prefer indirect stimulation of the glans via stroking the clitoral hood or massaging the inner and outer labia. 

While this is the part of the vulva that most people think of when they imagine the clitoris, there is a great deal more going on inside, as you’ll see shortly.

Urethral Opening

If you follow a straight line down from the clitoral glans, you’ll find a very small opening called the urethral opening. The urethra is the tube through which urine exits the bladder, and the urethral opening is where the urine emerges from the body when you pee. 

While the urethral opening itself is not an erogenous spot for most people, stimulation of the tissue around the urethra, called the “urinary meatus,” can be pleasurable for some people. 

Vaginal Opening

Directly below the urethral opening is the vaginal opening. Inside the vaginal opening is the vagina, a long canal of erectile tissue that allows for uterine tissue to escape the uterus during menstruation. During birth, babies also exit the uterus through the vagina unless delivered via cesarean section.

The vagina is commonly stimulated for sexual pleasure during penetrative sex. There are sensitive nerve endings around the vaginal opening that respond positively to pressure stimulation. That’s why the first moment of penetration is often so intensely pleasurable. However, as you’ll see, the vagina is also closely connected with the clitoris.

Anus

Below the vaginal opening is the anus, which is the end of the digestive tract where feces or “poop” emerges. While not technically part of the vulva, you can stimulate the anus for sexual pleasure - although some people do not find anal stimulation pleasurable. Either way, locating the anus also makes it easier to orient yourself to the structures of the vulva.

Stimulation from the clit

 So, Where Is the Clit?

What most people think of as the clit is actually the clitoral glans, and believe it or not, it’s the smallest part of the clitoris. That tiny little button of extra-sensitive tissue is quite literally the tip of the iceberg for the clit. As you’ll see, all orgasms are clitoral orgasms, even deep G-spot orgasms from penetration. 

Glans

The clitoral glans is structurally similar to the glans or head of the penis, which is where it got its name. However, despite the structural similarities, the glans of the penis and the glans of the clitoris are functionally quite different. The glans of the penis is responsible in part for sexual pleasure, and it also houses the urethral opening, through which urine and semen emerge.

The glans of the clitoris, on the other hand, has one function only - pleasure. It has more nerve endings than the glans of the penis, and to be clear, that’s more nerve endings, period. Despite its small size in comparison, the clitoral glans has more than twice as many nerve endings as the entire penis. That’s before you even get to the other parts of the clitoris, as we will shortly.

Because those nerve endings are so tightly packed, direct stimulation of the clitoris can be overwhelming for many people. Many people prefer indirect stimulation using a pressure pulse vibrator such as a Satisfyer Pro or via other parts of the clit over direct stimulation. If you want to stimulate your clit directly, be sure to use lots of lube, as dry touching the glans can be extremely uncomfortable.  

Shaft

Under the clitoral hood, the clitoral shaft extends upward from the glans toward the mons pubis. It lays flat when unaroused but floods with blood and swells when aroused. During arousal, you can most easily identify it as a ridge of engorged tissue under the hood.

Though not as sensitive as the glans, the shaft is also jam-packed with sexual nerve-endings that you can stimulate through the clitoral hood. Gently stroking the hood up and down over the glans is pleasurable for many people, as is massaging side-to-side. Bullet vibrators and other deep vibrating sex toys are often very effective at deeply stimulating the shaft.

Corpus Cavernosum

The clitoral shaft extends into the body, forking into two separate tubes of erectile sexual tissue. These tubes are individually called “corpora cavernosa” and together called the “corpus cavernosum.” The two sides of the corpora cavernosa wrap around the vaginal canal before connecting again on the other side. 

As you become aroused, the corpora cavernosa swell, constricting the vaginal canal and causing engorgement of the external vulva. The corpora cavernosa can be stimulated internally through the walls of the vagina. Stimulation at the vaginal opening is often most pleasurable, though deeper penetration also engages the sensitive tissues.

Crura

After reconnecting behind the vagina, the clitoris forks again into two separate tails called the crura. These tails can be up to nine centimeters long and extend toward the thighs when not aroused. However, they fill with blood upon arousal, becoming erect and extending toward the spine.

The crura can be stimulated via the external vulva during foreplay, as they are closer to the thighs until they become erect. Once aroused, the crura extend deeper into the body toward the spine. There, deep vaginal or even anal penetration stimulates them best.

How to find the clit

How to Find the Clit

So far, we’ve gone over how to identify the clitoris and other structures of the vulva by sight. Now we’re going to take it one step further and explore how to locate the different parts of the clitoris by touch. This method is most effective for locating your own clitoris. 

If you want to try it out on a friend, it may be easiest to start with their back to you the first time so that touching their vulva feels much like touching your own (if you have one). Don’t be afraid to explore off the beaten path because finding your way there is half the fun.

1. Locate the glans 

Begin with the palm of your hand on the mons, with your fingers pointing toward the anus. Gently separate the outer labia to locate the thinner inner labia. Again, gently separate the inner labia, holding them open with your fingers. 

Use one finger of your other hand (and some lube, if you’re not already aroused and wet), and locate your vaginal opening. This part marks the midpoint of your vulva. Slowly run your finger in a straight line upward toward your mons pubis until you find a small lump of extremely sensitive tissue. This part is the glans.

You may not notice it immediately, especially if you’re not already aroused. If you’re not quite sure if you’ve found the glans, try getting yourself a little more turned on first. Arousal causes blood to flow to the clitoris, engorging it and making it more sensitive. Once you’re aroused, try again, and you should be able to identify the sensitive, engorged glans more clearly.

This tiny nub of skin is what many people believe is the entire clitoris. You’ll notice it’s extremely sensitive to direct stimulation, especially without lubrication. For this reason, many people prefer gentle or indirect stimulation to the glans, with more intense, direct stimulation to other parts of the clit. 

Those who do enjoy direct stimulation to the glans require a gentle touch and lots of lube. Alternatively, you can stimulate the glans indirectly by gently pinching it through the outer labia. Variations of this motion are incredibly pleasurable and can even lead to orgasm.

2. Locate the shaft

If needed, continue holding the inner and outer labia apart with one hand. Place the tips of your middle and ring finger of the other hand inside the fold where the outer labia meet. Using moderate pressure and plenty of lubrication, slowly slide the tips of your fingers down along the fleshy clitoral hood.

Stop when you feel the increased sensitivity that indicates the top of the glans. You will feel a raised ridge or tube of tissue between the tips of your middle and ring fingers. This part is the clitoral shaft. 

If you can’t feel the ridge, try maintaining the same gentle pressure while gently moving your fingers from side to side. This motion should feel pleasant (or at least not uncomfortable) and increase blood flow to the clitoris. When you feel the “bump” of your fingers going over the engorged ridge of tissue, you’ll know you’ve found the shaft.

As you will have noticed, side-to-side stimulation of this portion of the clitoris during arousal is usually very pleasurable. Many people can reach orgasm from consistent stimulation of the shaft alone. You can also try sliding the skin of the clitoral hood up and down on the shaft, as if “jacking off” your clit.

3. Keep exploring

Before continuing to locate the internal structures of the clitoris, take a moment to consider how aroused you are. The crura of the clitoris change location depending on your level of arousal, and the corpus cavernosa are almost impossible to feel until they become engorged with blood. 

If you’re not yet aroused, try feeling for the crura near your groin. Begin with the outer labia closed (or at least relaxed) and the palm of your hand on the mons pubis. Apply gentle pressure with the flat part of your fingers on the outer labia, like flattening a ball of clay. 

You likely will not feel the crura themselves, as they don’t become engorged until arousal occurs. You may feel an increased sensation of sensitivity or pleasure through the outer labia around the area of the vaginal opening, near the groin. The sensation will be similar to that of the clitoral shaft. However, it will be much less sensitive and in a different location.

As you become aroused, the crura extend into the body, and the pleasurable sensation in the groin may disappear. Before attempting to locate them again, or the corpus cavernosa, take some time to make sure you are fully aroused. The more aroused you are, the easier it will be to identify these internal structures of the clitoris.

Once you’re fully aroused, locate the vaginal opening. Insert one to two fingers into the vagina, stopping around the second knuckle. If you’re using one finger, slowly “swirl” it in a circle along the interior walls of your vagina. You may feel a noticeable ridge of engorged tissue, or you may simply feel an area of tightness around your first knuckle. 

Stimulating the sides and back wall of your vagina in this way engages the corpora cavernosa, the section of the clitoris that wraps around the vaginal canal. Much deeper into your vagina, unreachable by most fingers, lie the aroused crura. These are best stimulated via deep penetration using a sex toy or penis.

FAQs

Do you ever wonder if others wonder, “where is the clit?” Here are a few frequently asked questions about clitoris location, vulva anatomy, and sexual pleasure.

Where is my clit?

Every vulva is different, so finding the exact location of your clit is a matter of personal exploration. The clit is much more than the tiny button of flesh that people think of, too. You’ll find that button, which is actually your clitoral glans, inside your outer and inner labia, directly above the vaginal opening. 

The clitoral shaft is connected to the glans, protected by the clitoral hood. The clitoris also has internal structures, called the corpus cavernosa and the crura. These can be located deeper inside the vagina. 

How many nerve endings does a clit have?

The clitoral glans has over 8,000 nerve endings, which is more than double the number of nerve endings in an entire penis. There are even more nerve endings in the corpus cavernosa and the crura, which are the internal structures of the clitoris.

What is an internal clitoris?

The internal clitoris comprises the internal structures of the clitoris that cannot be seen or stimulated externally. These structures include the corpus cavernosa and the crura. The corpus cavernosa forms a band around the vaginal canal, and the crura extend deeper into the body toward the spine. They can be stimulated via deep penetration using a penis or sex toy.

Final Thoughts

Congratulations! Just by reading this article, you’ve embarked on a journey toward greater sexual pleasure for yourself and your partners. Whether you’ve now successfully located every part of the clitoris or just begun exploring, you can be proud that you’ve taken the time to learn more about the sexual pleasure of the clitoris.